What is Domestic Violence? 

Domestic violence (also referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV), dating abuse, or relationship abuse) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.

Domestic violence doesn’t discriminate. People of any race, age, gender, sexuality, religion, education level, or economic status can be a victim — or perpetrator — of domestic violence. That includes behaviors that physically harm, intimidate, manipulate or control a partner, or otherwise force them to behave in ways they don’t want to, including through physical violence, threats, emotional abuse, or financial control.

Learn more about common signs of abusive behavior in a partner. Multiple forms of abuse are usually present at the same time in abusive situations, and it’s essential to understand how these behaviors interact so you know what to look for.

Types of Abuse

Relationship abuse is a pattern of behaviors used to gain or maintain power and control over a partner, which can manifest in a number of ways.

• Physical Abuse: Use of physical force in a way that injures or puts others at risk of injury.
• Emotional and Verbal Abuse: Use of words, tone, actions, or lack of action meant to control, hurt, or demean.
• Sexual Abuse: Forced or coerced sexual act or behavior motivated to acquire power and control.
• Financial Abuse: Use or misuse of financial or monetary resources of the partner or of the partnership without the partner’s freely given consent.

Why don't victims leave? 

The decision to leave an abusive relationship is difficult, and a victim's reasons for staying may be numerous, including:

• Fear of physical harm, retaliation, dealing with the legal system, or changing their situation
• Love for their significant other
• Lack of resources (housing, money, accessible programs)
• Isolation from supportive friends and family members
• Familial pressure
• Normalization of violence in the relationship
• A sense of guilt or responsibility for the abuse
• A desire to help their abuser
• Potential public shaming or humiliation
• Optimism that things will change
• Religious belief and values

Where can someone find help? 

View our online directory of agencies and organizations who support those affected by domestic violence and sexual assault. View your rights as a victim of a crime in the State of Wisconsin.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Text "Start" to 88788

thehotline.org